The Crazy Zone, Part 3

The third tool I have been using during this busy time is walking at a reasonable pace and waiting for stoplights.

Yup.

I am usually one to scurry across the street as soon as traffic is clear, or I race to cross while the light is yellow. I see the seconds counting down and must get to the other side! This habit keeps me in a a "Go, go go!" mode, spinning the hamster wheel faster and faster.

I've been a scurry-er my whole life. Only in the last month have I allowed. Myself. To. Wait.

Shock of all shocks, the wait is not long. The light inevitably changes, and off I go, calmer and more centered. It doesn't take much longer, and I arrive at my destination feeling so much better than if I had rushed.

The same technique can be used while driving or biking (I live in an area where a lot of people use bikes for transportation.)

Simple? Yes indeed. It doesn't take much for us to calm our nervous systems and reduce the seemingly constant stress in our lives, allowing our bodies more space to heal.

I would love to hear any simple tools you use to deal with The Crazy Zone. What keeps you calm amidst chaos?

The Crazy Zone, Part 2

The second thing I've been doing during this particular Crazy Zone is follow-through, both on work projects but also and especially household chores. Rather than leave laundry in the dryer for days or piling dirty dishes in the sink because I can't be bothered to empty the dishwasher, I start and finish the task at hand.

This reduces my stress in many ways:

1. I don't have a million little tasks using up brain space.
2. My environment is visually calm.
3. I show my love for my husband, who is stressed by a dirty and messy house. 
4. It gives me perspective on how busy I think I am.
5. It encourages mindfulness.

Of course follow-through is not always possible. My handy dandy schedule lets me know when I can take a few minutes to finish the job and when time is simply too tight.

Another technique I use when I don't have time to finish a task is splitting it up into smaller steps: I start and finish one guilt-free, knowing the next bit comes later.

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I recently did this when taking on a big task which was important to my heart but had nothing to do with work. My next-door neighbor, who is 92, was fretting because her side garden hadn't received topsoil in over 15 years and was generally looking a little shaggy. She cannot see this side garden from her home unless she opens a window and looks down, but I have a lovely view of it from my dining room. So of course I offered to take on the job - even though I knew time was tight.

Over the course of a few weeks, I pruned the plants, turned the soil, ordered compost delivery, spread the compost, turned the soil again, and took two trips to the hardware store to buy supplies so I could install soaker hoses.

Doing this project made me feel honored; I got to help my sweet elderly neighbor, and work a garden that's been on this planet twice as long as I have. It kept my perspective on the important things in life. It was fun, and gave me a much-needed break from deadlines. 

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There is so much we can't control in life, but a little bit of follow-through shows us how much power we do have in creating a life that we love.

The Crazy Zone, Part 1

Last week we talked about the importance of Rest and Digest. But how do you manage that when life inevitably gets a little crazy?

This August, September and October have been nutty for me. I am more productive when I have a sense of rhythm and routine in my life, but rhythm and routine were nowhere to be found.

The first step for me was noticing. Yes. Seeing that I was in a crazy zone, and would be for some time, was incredibly helpful. I didn't realize this until the beginning of September, and my first reaction was a bit of panic - Gah! How am I going to survive two more months of this?? - but then I realized that it came with a bright side: November would be a bring a bit of calm and flexibility. Phew.

I puttered along with this newfound realization in my head - a good start - but the lack of routine was throwing me off and making it harder to get through the day and week. What to do? The next step was some serious looking ahead.

I sat down with my calendar, and rather than looking a week ahead as I normally do, looked at September, October and November. I anticipated the time I would need to prepare and execute each project, and blocked off time before the deadlines. I realized that getting certain projects done during this time was unrealistic, and pushed them to November, thereby relieving myself of the cloud of guilt that was hovering over my lack of progress.

I then scheduled in exercise and yoga, my personal favorites for keeping balance in my life. Since I know those times are limited, I am less likely to skip them.

I realized that my usual goal to keep Sundays free for relaxing would not happen for most of October, so the one day I do have will be held absolutely sacred - no way will I let that dissolve into "just a few" errands and get togethers. I then set aside each Sunday in November as a Lazy Day, so I would get to fill up on quiet time before the craziness of the holidays.

I'll keep writing about The Crazy Zone this week, but for now here are a few tips on dealing with unusual periods of high stress or activity:

1. Notice you are in The Crazy Zone.
2. Look ahead. How long will you be here?
3. Schedule, setting aside time in advance for each project.
4. Schedule in quiet and exercise dates. When you know they are coming, it will help you get through crunch time.

Mind-Body Medicine

Today's post is about what mind-body medicine is and how it can reduce pelvic pain. Click above to watch it!

Lazy Late Summer

After coming back from a busy and fun vacation, I found myself craving a bit of quiet time. It felt like I had been going, going, going, since...well, for a long time, at any rate. Rather than jumping back into my old routine, I gave myself the gift of taking it easy, slowly coming back to daily life. I took naps, laid in the hammock, watched the late summer unfold.

I found these quiet moments so nourishing.

As we close in on the autumn equinox (Tuesday, September 23rd), the shorter days nudge my body and mind to take stock of the summer's bounty. The idea for this website poked it's head up in the spring, and finally came into being in the summer. I am so grateful for this site, for this blog, for the opportunity to help raise awareness about pelvic pain. 

What crop have you cultivated this summer? How is your life unfolding?